Today after school my kids did the usual. I, of course, was in the office working on Relief Society stuff. They all came running in to say hi, hug me and drop all their "stuff" on the floor. As they started trickling out of the room, Olivia came up and said, "Mom, there's something I need to talk with you about." She seemed so concerned and I loved that she wanted to come and talk to me. She climbed up on my lap and proceded to tell me how some of the kids that are her age say that they have cell phone's and laptops. At first I thought it was kind of funny but continued with the conversation. I could tell that she was concerned. I was worried that she was concerned that she didn't have any of those things but as we talked I realized that she didn't like that she thought they were not telling the truth. She thought they were just making it up and it really bothered her. It was such a good opportunity to talk to her about how "Things" don't make us important, how we need to be honest and just maybe they ARE telling the truth and she just needs to let them know that it doesn't matter what they have or don't have but that she will still be their friend.
I know this doesn't seem like much but I love that #1 my daughter feels safe coming to me and talking to me about her concerns and #2 we can discuss these things and it opens up a teaching moment where I don't have to feel like I'm lecturing. It is times like these that the spirit confirms to me that I am where I am supposed to be.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
I LOVE Being a Mom!
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Monday, January 26, 2009
Happy Birthday, Maren!!!
Not only does Maren look great after having a baby, she is a great person. I have always said that it was lucky for me that she was born after me because I would not have been able to live up to her. She has always been the kindest person. She always looks for and finds the good in all people. She is one that you know will never talk ill of you. She is trustworthy and honest. She is a great mom and takes good care of her 4 sweet kids. She has a big challenge with them being so close in age but she is not only surviving the task but I can tell she is really enjoying the time with her sweet little ones. She is the best example of someone that lives her life following the prophet. She is a great example not only to me but our family and everyone she comes in contact with.
Growing up with Maren was always fun. You never knew what she was going to say or do. She is as smart as can be and very creative.
A few of my favorite memories:
2. One night we were sitting around the dinner table listening to my dad on the phone. It sounded like he was talking to someone about a new job. We asked my mom if we were moving and before she could respond Maren burst out, "All right, we are finally getting OUT of this hell hole. (I think she was in elementary school when she said that. I think we were all so shocked we just started laughing.)
3. I remember when we were fighting one night. I wasn't saying very nice things to her and she finally just punched me and then started crying. I said, "Why are you crying? I'm the one that should be crying, you just hit me." Her response, "I hurt you physically but you hurt me mentally." :)
4. I loved the piano playing, even though it got her out of doing chores. I loved when she would play and we would sing cheesy songs together. i.e. 'A Window to His Love.'
5. I loved that Maren was never afraid to talk to anyone - no matter what age they were. (I was always so shy but I wanted to be that way.)
6. I remember not wanting to share clothes with her only to find my clothes on her or my clothes put away "differently" than how I put them. (I'm sure she got away with it sometimes.)
7. Two words: Cash Register
8. Playing raquetteball and having "fashion breaks"
9. I loved that all my friends enjoyed Maren. When I didn't want my little sister tagging along, my friends loved having her around. (refer to #5.)
10. My favorite memories now are long conversations about motherhood, politics, schools, caring for our homes, callings, etc.
Maren, you are a great sister and a wonderful friend. I love you dearly and am proud to say that you are my sister. I hope that I can grow up to be like you someday.
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Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Olivia's Special Day!
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Tuesday, January 20, 2009
In Light of this "Historic" Day!
Today was a snow day and the kids were home from school which threw any schedule out the window. I have to admit that I forgot about the inauguration. But I will also admit I hadn't decided if I wanted to watch it or not. With all this economic trouble I have heard too many comments on the radio, tv, internet and even from an employee at Target about "class envy". People complaining about how the business big wigs are flying around comfortably in their jets and fancy cars, even in this economy. Now, I do take it personally that I WANT all those big wigs to fly their planes and to buy lots more since those planes (I should say, seats on those planes) puts food on our table. A friend of ours who is a dentist sent this to Tim. I thought it is right on the mark. I just wish those that vote in all these new taxes understood it this way. It is a letter written by a boss to his employees. It's lengthy but worth the read.
To All My Valued Employees,
There have been some rumblings around the office about the future of this company, and more specifically, your job. As you know, the economy has changed for the worse and presents many challenges. However, the good news is this: The economy doesn't pose a threat to your job. What does threaten your job however, is the changing political landscape in this country. However, let me tell you some little tidbits of fact which might help you decide what is in your best interests. First, while it is easy to spew rhetoric that casts employers against employees, you have to understand that for every business owner there is a back story. This back story is often neglected and overshadowed by what you see and hear. Sure, you see me park my Mercedes outside. You've seen my big home at last years Christmas party. I'm sure; all these flashy icons of luxury conjure up some idealized thoughts about my life. However, what you don't see is the back story. I started this company 28 years ago. At that time, I lived in a 300 square foot studio apartment for 3 years. My entire living apartment was converted into an office so I could put forth 100% effort into building a company, which by the way, would eventually employ you. My diet consisted of Ramen Pride noodles because every dollar I spent went back into this company. I drove a rusty Toyota Corolla with a defective transmission. I didn't have time to date. Often times, I stayed home on weekends, while my friends went out drinking and partying. In fact, I was married to my business -- hard work, discipline, and sacrifice. Meanwhile, my friends got jobs. They worked 40 hours a week and made a modest $50K a year and spent every dime they earned. They drove flashy cars and lived in expensive homes and wore fancy designer clothes. Instead of hitting the Nordstrom's for the latest hot fashion item, I was trolling through the Goodwill store extracting any clothing item that didn't look like it was birthed in the 70's. My friends refinanced their mortgages and lived a life of luxury. I, however, did not. I put my time, my money, and my life into a business with a vision that eventually, some day, I too, will be able to afford these luxuries my friends supposedly had. So, while you physically arrive at the office at 9am, mentally check in at about noon, and then leave at 5pm, I don't. There is no "off" button for me. When you leave the office, you are done and you have a weekend all to yourself. I unfortunately do not have the freedom. I eat, and breathe this company every minute of the day. There is no rest. There is no weekend. There is no happy hour. Every day this business is attached to my hip like a 1 year old special-needs child. You, of course, only see the fruits of that garden -- the nice house, the Mercedes, the vacations... you never realize the back story and the sacrifices I've made. Now, the economy is falling apart and I, the guy that made all the right decisions and saved his money, have to bail-out all the people who didn't. The people that overspent their paychecks suddenly feel entitled to the same luxuries that I earned and sacrificed a decade of my life for. Yes, business ownership has is benefits but the price I've paid is steep and not without wounds. Unfortunately, the cost of running this business, and employing you, is starting to eclipse the threshold of marginal benefit and let me tell you why: I am being taxed to death and the government thinks I don't pay enough. I have state taxes. Federal taxes. Property taxes. Sales and use taxes. Payroll taxes. Workers compensation taxes. Unemployment taxes. Taxes on taxes. I have to hire a tax man to manage all these taxes and then guess what? I have to pay taxes for employing him. Government mandates and regulations and all the accounting that goes with it, now occupy most of my time. On Oct 15th, I wrote a check to the US Treasury for $288,000 for quarterly taxes. You know what my "stimulus" check was? Zero. Nada. Zilch. The question I have is this: Who is stimulating the economy? Me, the guy who has provided 14 people good paying jobs and serves over 2,200,000 people per year with a flourishing business? Or, the single mother sitting at home pregnant with her fourth child waiting for her next welfare check? Obviously, government feels the latter is the economic stimulus of this country. The fact is, if I deducted (Read: Stole) 50% of your paycheck you'd quit and you wouldn't work here. I mean, why should you? That's nuts. Who wants to get rewarded only 50% of their hard work? Well, I agree which is why your job is in jeopardy. Here is what many of you don't understand ... to stimulate the economy you need to stimulate what runs the economy. Had suddenly government mandated to me that I didn't need to pay taxes, guess what? Instead of depositing that $288,000 into the Washington black-hole, I would have spent it, hired more employees, and generated substantial economic growth. My employees would have enjoyed the wealth of that tax cut in the form of promotions and better salaries. But you can forget it now. When you have a comatose man on the verge of death, you don't defibrillate and shock his thumb thinking that will bring him back to life, do you? Or, do you defibrillate his heart? Business is at the heart of America and always has been. To restart it, you must stimulate it, not kill it. Suddenly, the power brokers in Washington believe the poor of America are the essential drivers of the American economic engine. Nothing could be further from the truth and this is the type of change you can keep. So where am I going with all this? It's quite simple. If any new taxes are levied on me, or my company, my reaction will be swift and simple. I fire you. I fire your co-workers. You can then plead with the government to pay for your mortgage, your SUV, and your child's future. Frankly, it isn't my problem any more. Then, I will close this company down, move to another country, and retire. You see, I'm done. I'm done with a country that penalizes the productive and gives to the unproductive. My motivation to work and to provide jobs will be destroyed, and with it, will be my citizenship. If you lose your job, it won't be at the hands of the economy; it will be at the hands of a political hurricane that swept through this country, steamrolled the constitution, and will have changed its landscape forever. If that happens, you can find me sitting on a beach, retired, and with no employees to worry about.... Signed, Your boss
Posted by Casey at 11:48 PM 3 comments
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Uh! Thanks for the tip West Forsyth School District, I never would have thought of that!
I haven't given my opinion lately and most of you are probably glad. But I couldn't pass this one up. Ever since my children started attending government schools (aka public schools) I have noticed the trend of the schools thinking they know what is best for my child more than I do. I am grateful that they teach my children to learn to read and write, how to do math and science, and teach them social studies. All very important but what they don't need to do is tell me what I should put in my children's lunches, they don't need to give them lunch (that I later get a bill for) when they forget their lunch (I'd rather have them go hungry so the next day they will DEFINITELY remember). They don't need to have special events for the moms and dads to come have donuts with their kids because they are concerned I don't spend enough time with them. They don't need to tell me that I need to make sure that my child gets enough rest the night before a placement test and to eat a healthy breakfast that morning - FYI, I do that EVERY night and EVERY morning. I know they want the best for these kids but let ME be the parent. The reason for these thoughts is the other night the school district called to inform me that it was going to be record temperatures that next morning and that the school buses might have a hard time starting so they may be a little late. All well and good, if my kids rode the bus I would actually care and be glad for this information. That wasn't the importance of the message though. They wanted to let me know that since the kids might have to stand outside a little longer waiting for the bus, I need to make sure to dress my kids in warm clothes. WHAT?!? Do they think every parent was planning on sending their kids to school in shorts and tank tops? PLEASE! What a waste of a phone call and I am more disappointed that I answered it and interupted our dinner we were having - which was healthy and we were eating all together as a family - spending quality time together, just before the girls went to bed early to get a good nights rest to wake in the morning to eat a healthy breakfast. Good thing we have West Forsyth School District, who KNOWS what kind of parent I would be.
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Monday, January 12, 2009
Alexa's 5K Run
This is Alexa's dear friend from church and they are lucky enough to be in the same school class also. They ran together. These girls trained with all the kids in their school that were involved every Monday after school with just a little complaining.
Here they all are stretching before the big race. I think Alexa is more "posing" than she is stretching. What a girl.
Southwest Elementary kids!
Starting the race
"The Bystanders"
Maya
The babe - McKenna
The Finish Line!
We had to laugh because as we watched everyone cross the finish line many people would race at the very end across the finish line. (notice the boys in the front racing each other.) Not these girls. Alexa and her little friends all decided that they would run across holding hands. (Can you say "Kum By Ya"?)
Here they are after the race. We were so impressed. That's a good run for a girl that had never run a race before.
Posted by Casey at 11:40 PM 9 comments
A Brief Update
It's been a while since I've posted. Life has been unbelievably crazy lately. So here is just a short summary of what to look forward to:
Alexa's 5k Run
Olivia's Baptism
Thanksgiving
Maya's Birthday
Christmas
Trip to Arkansas
Check back and SOMETHING should be posted hopefully soon.
Around the house comments:
New Year's Resolution:
Alexa: My new year's resolution is to eat more and read less.
(I don't think I've ever heard that one before.)
Tongith was family night. A friend of mine here in NC told me about how they did Spotlight at FHE when her kids were little. One person would be the spotlight, they would go around the room and each family member had to say something that they loved about the person being spotlighted. She said it was great when someone was upset with a sibling or parent and they had to say something they loved about them - it helped turn around their attitude pretty quickly.
We decided to start doing that and have really enjoyed it. (We did have to explain to Maya that we got to pick what we wanted to say about her - she wanted to tell us what we could say.) Tonight it was my turn. Maya said, "I love mommy because she always picks us up from school and always has a smile on her face." I loved that she recognized such a small thing that I do and that she appreciates it - for the smiling part I think she's giving me a little more credit but I'll definitely make sure tomorrow that it's there.
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